Teach Girls To Be Brave, Not Perfect

 Throughout the centuries, Western society has been in charge of accentuating the differences between boys and girls. Boys are taught to stay strong in the face of adversity, not show their emotions and defy dangers while girls have been instilled with the idea that they are the 'weaker sex', allowed to be more emotional and He repeats that their task is to become perfect women.



Fortunately, in recent years we have made huge strides in terms of gender equality, but it is difficult to erase at a stroke the sexist ideas that we have carried over different generations and that, although we are not always aware of it, can represent a drag on child development. That explains why even today some parents continue to tell their children that “men don't cry” and that they should not be afraid, while girls are educated to look perfect at all times as if they were princesses.

In a study carried out at Columbia University, researchers evaluated the coping strategies put into practice by a group of boys and girls in the fifth grade when faced with a series of new and complex problems. By presenting the problems, the researchers found that the most intelligent children took the tasks as a challenge, which motivated them to strive to find a solution. In contrast, the smarter girls did not behave in the same way but we're more likely to abandon the task quickly.


What is this difference in attitude due to?

The researchers believe that the girls were victims of what is known as “learned helplessness,” a concept that refers to passive behaviors that are generated as a result of not having achieved the expected results in the past after several attempts. In the case of girls, the learned helplessness comes from an overly protective educational style, which even becomes disabling as it makes the little ones lose confidence in their abilities and, therefore, give up faster.

In this way, while the boys assumed that they could not solve the problems because they were too complicated, the girls doubted their abilities to do so and quickly lost confidence. It is a substantial difference in the way you think about yourself that can lead you down very different paths in life.

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Unfortunately, the results of this experiment do not represent isolated cases. This happens when girls are educated to be perfect and behave with restraint at all times when their ability to discover the world and take on challenges is limited when they are made to doubt their abilities because they are taught that in certain fields it is not necessary to try too hard because they are the heritage of men.

The good news is that it doesn't always have to be this way, change is in the hands of the parents. So if you want your daughter to become a confident woman, try:

Encourage her to discover her surroundings, to always go further, to take risks, and not be afraid of the unknown.

Teach him to trust his abilities and to take obstacles as opportunities to grow and learn.

Motivate her to take on new challenges and pursue her dreams wherever they take her, without thinking that certain fields are only for men.

Feed her self-esteem each day, not only telling her how precious she is but also how brave and persistent.

Explain that each person is unique, regardless of gender, race, or social status, and that everyone should have the same opportunities to grow and express themselves.

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